Being a wedding planner sounds so glamorous, exciting and fairytale like to anyone who isn’t an actual wedding planner. It’s always so funny to us because our careers are completely romanticized by Hollywood, darn you JLo! Now, we love what we do, otherwise we wouldn’t be doing it but being a planner isn’t as glitzy as everyone think. Here are 7 things you need to know about wedding planners.
We plan everything…literally
We don’t sit in a room covered in white roses, drinking champagne, collecting checks and eating hors d’oeurves. It’s hectic!
We hate being your therapist
We need you to stick to your lock in dates
Yes of course we know this is one of the most important days of your life and you want it all to be as perfect as it can, but changing your mind 50 slows us down. So when we give you a “lock in” date which translates to the day the final decision is made about something, please stick to it. The more you change your mind, the less time there is and the more back tracking we have to do and opportunities can be lost.
We do have lives outside of wedding planning
Despite popular belief, we don’t spend our lives laying on a fluffy pile of tulle day dreaming about wedding cakes and floral arrangements. Many planners are married themselves and have families, friends and personal “to do” lists stuck on their refrigerators! We engage in leisure activities such as working out, painting, girls nights and also need our personal down time as well. So if your planner tells you in advance what days/times she is not available, please respect it.
We get annoyed when you try to take over
We are perfectionists and control freaks (so we want your wedding to be perfect too but…)
I can’t speak for any other planners but for myself personally, that is why being a planner is so great! We can be attentive to details, cater to everyone
We appreciate being acknowledged
So often it can happen that the wedding goes smoothly, everyone is happy and married and certain agreements can be forgotten. For example, if you agreed to let your planner use pictures for her website or social media, or if you agreed to write a testimonial and never did. We don’t need you to make a huge announcement to all 200 of your guests, but if you can appreciate the work we’ve done by sticking to agreements or giving a tip or even a thank you card, it means a lot to us. If you take these 7 things into consideration, not only will planning and working together be exceptionally smooth but you may just end up with a very good friend as well. We love what we do and want to see our clients happy in all respects.